Often when we experience something we don’t like we are unsure of how to process it. We ignore it; we set it aside to think about another day; we don’t acknowledge it even happened; or maybe, by chance, we ask ourselves “what was that about?” When we allow ourselves to question our own experiences it opens a space to invite new understanding. With new understanding we create new possibilities.
When most of us sit down for the first time to meditate and tune into our bodies we usually sense discomfort. If we are honest with ourselves, we know that we spend most of our time ignoring this discomfort, which sometimes turns into pain. When we give ourselves permission to tune into our body and feel the discomfort inside, we are left questioning what it could possibly mean. If we take a step back and allow ourselves to consider that we are spiritual beings having a human experience, it makes logical sense that the body and mind are meant to serve a specific purpose in our life experience. But what does Source (or Universe or God or your own term) intend us to use them for? If you have any discomforts within your physical body I invite you to open up to a new understanding of how you can live life comfortably.
Has anyone ever told you that you are not your thoughts and feelings? Thoughts are what you think in your mind, they are not who you are. Feelings are what you physically feel in the body that results in an emotional state or mood, they are not who you are. Your mind and body serve a specific purpose in our physical plane of existence, but we have mistakenly misinterpreted what to use them for. Thoughts and feelings are actually tools to help you understand your experience as you are experiencing them. Your thoughts and feelings in any given experience will let you know whether you are enjoying or not enjoying what is going on. Thoughts and feelings are simple ways to help you understand what your experience means to you. They are not meant for you to identify with or to store in your body and mind. So how do we end up believing we are what we think and feel?
When we were very young, from birth to three years old, we learned from observing the world around us. We were like sponges because we were learning about physical existence. We needed to understand how to operate on this plane of existence. And when we decided to act, like smiling for the first time, it was based on imitation of what we had observed. As many of us did not grow up surrounded by enlightened beings, we adopted the behaviours and beliefs we saw in those around us, our parents, family, friends and community. We simply did what we saw others doing, so we allowed ourselves to store in our mind and body the feelings and thoughts associated with our experiences as they arose. We had little choice but to repeat the behaviours and beliefs we saw, because we had little or no other source (i.e. an enlightened being) from which to learn.
As these feelings and thoughts or beliefs were stored in ourselves our energy changed, we were no longer vibrating at the same state. We now began to vibrate these stuck feelings and thoughts. And because we get what we give out, we began to have similar if not the same experiences over and over again. Through this repetition we began to form patterns that people call personality traits. When we identify ourselves as a set of personality traits or repeating beliefs, it’s easy to see how we come to believe we are our thoughts and feelings.
Every experience corresponds to one or more feelings in the body and one or more associated thoughts in the mind. Each experience triggers a feeling-thought. If we are repeating an experience then a belief will be triggered. It can be triggered by the thought, which will set off a chemical reaction in the body to ensure the associated feeling is also triggered, or it can be triggered by the feeling, which will set off a different chemical reaction to ensure the associated thought is triggered. A belief is a feeling in the body as well as its associated thought in the mind, and both will be triggered when we repeat past experiences.
When feelings and thoughts or beliefs are repeated enough and we get used to them, we see ourselves as them, they become our personality. Regardless of age, when we experience something totally outside of our area of comfort, something that is a shock to us, we instantly and unconsciously store the feeling and thought within. Then, over the years we unconsciously draw similar experiences to ourselves. Personality traits can be the accumulation of repeated beliefs, or the instantaneous imprint of a single feeling and thought from a shocking or traumatizing experience.
Who we believe we are is really a series of feelings and thoughts‒which you were unconsciously conditioned to believe‒that we now identify as our personalities. In other words, our personalities are the beliefs that we have repeated so often we identify them as ourselves. We unconsciously identified these feelings and thoughts or beliefs because we were imitating behaviour from others as a means of coping with whatever we were going through in the moment we identified with it. These are our social conditionings. Social conditionings are not bad or good. They are just a coping mechanism.
Thoughts and feelings are not meant to be absorbed into our minds and bodies as a coping mechanism. They are meant to guide us emotionally towards what we want and away from what we come to realize we don’t want. Thoughts from our mind and feelings from our body can be categorized as negative and positive. Meaning when we feel good we have an indication of what we would like to invite more of into our life, and when we feel bad we have an indication of what we no longer want in our life.
This view may seem simplistic, but that is the beauty of reality: the answers are always logical and hidden in plain sight. It is our social conditionings that makes things more complicated than they ought to be. But it is our Higher Self, when it is occasionally heard, that asks us to question why we act the way we do. Now that we understand our conditionings a bit better, how can we prepare ourselves to make the choice to release these bodily discomforts and so that we are more vibrationally in tune with our Higher Self?